The Watering Hole

Just in case any of you are feeling down at Christmas....

My ex informed me that she intends to marry the guy she was fucking while we were married. Now my girls will be partly raised by a guy that has been fired for sexual harassment, his best friend ratted him out, he also fucked a min of 8 to 10 other women during his 3 year marriage. He also gave his wife HPV, I've just found out, and she found this out after she left him. So, now I have to get checked for it.

Now, that should fix ya.  ;D

Well, I bet you're glad you didn't get back together with her!

You can say that again. It amazes me how sorry some people are. Not sure how a women, especially, can possibly think like she does.

Oh man that's shitty.  Lotta assholes in the world... Keep your daughters' trust and keep a very open dialog with them.  They'll know who is in their corner in life and that's what matters most.  

Try to find someone who is a much better person than yourself to be with in the future... Worked for me!!!

"Try to find someone who is a much better person than yourself to be with in the future... Worked for me!!!"


That is key!!! She thinks this guy is a good guy. And she knows his history. Unbelievable. I could care less who she sees, but to bring this garbage into 2 young girls life is just, well, no excuse for that.  

BINGEWOOD — Dec 11, 2012

Try to find someone who is a much better person than yourself to be with in the future... Worked for me!!!

Amen brother!  Me too!!!!

if he has been fired for sexual harassment etc, it's worthwhile exploring with a solicitor if it's possible to get a court order to keep him away from your girls ?   Got to be worth a try as I'm sure a court would take a dim view of a pervert moving in with two young girls in the house ?

Jon — Dec 11, 2012if he has been fired for sexual harassment etc, it's worthwhile exploring with a solicitor if it's possible to get a court order to keep him away from your girls ?   Got to be worth a try as I'm sure a court would take a dim view of a pervert moving in with two young girls in the house ?

Plus a hundred thousand on this.^^^^^^^

I have a court order stating that he, by name, isn't to be around my kids and it is the sole responsibility of my ex to see that happens. It also says that she must pay my attorney fees if she's found in contempt.

Here's the problem. Well, lets get this out of the way. I have absolute proof that the kids have been around the fucker, by her own admission in a text and eye witness. Now, the problem. There is no guarantee the judge will order her to pay my attorney fees even if it's in the court order. Second, what are they gonna do to her? What do I really have to gain be spending 5k bringing her to court for this after all the other money I've spent and lost in this deal? Just for the judge to say, come on now slut, you must obey the court order honey. If it's a gamble to even get reimbursed my attorney fees, do you think they will fine her or something? Really? They surely won't make her visit jail. So, what do I gain? From my point of view, I only stand to potentially lose 5k in addition to what I've lost already. Am I missing something here?

Hookbender — Dec 11, 2012I have a court order stating that he, by name, isn't to be around my kids and it is the sole responsibility of my ex to see that happens. It also says that she must pay my attorney fees if she's found in contempt.

Here's the problem. Well, lets get this out of the way. I have absolute proof that the kids have been around the fucker, by her own admission in a text and eye witness. Now, the problem. There is no guarantee the judge will order her to pay my attorney fees even if it's in the court order. Second, what are they gonna do to her? What do I really have to gain be spending 5k bringing her to court for this after all the other money I've spent and lost in this deal? Just for the judge to say, come on now slut, you must obey the court order honey. If it's a gamble to even get reimbursed my attorney fees, do you think they will fine her or something? Really? They surely won't make her visit jail. So, what do I gain? From my point of view, I only stand to potentially lose 5k in addition to what I've lost already. Am I missing something here?

I wasn't thinking about the money, although I fully understand what you are saying. I was thinking about ensuring the scumbag is kept away from your kids. Hire a private detective for a few nights to get photographic evidence that he has broken the court order.

Hookbender — Dec 11, 2012Am I missing something here?

Just your wife, kids, sex and a lot of money.  Good thing you still have Budweiser!  :D

;D ;D ;D

You make me feel so good Craig. It would be better to say, you don't have to see your mother in law anymore.  ;D ;D

Jon, re-read the post. I have evidence. I don't need a pi.  :)

Hookbender — Dec 12, 2012

Jon, re-read the post. I have evidence. I don't need a pi.  :)

Take advice and do something with the evidence then, never give up with this sort of stuff. Keep chipping away at it and you will win.

Hookbender — Dec 11, 2012I have a court order stating that he, by name, isn't to be around my kids and it is the sole responsibility of my ex to see that happens. It also says that she must pay my attorney fees if she's found in contempt.

Here's the problem. Well, lets get this out of the way. I have absolute proof that the kids have been around the fucker, by her own admission in a text and eye witness. Now, the problem. There is no guarantee the judge will order her to pay my attorney fees even if it's in the court order. Second, what are they gonna do to her? What do I really have to gain be spending 5k bringing her to court for this after all the other money I've spent and lost in this deal? Just for the judge to say, come on now slut, you must obey the court order honey. If it's a gamble to even get reimbursed my attorney fees, do you think they will fine her or something? Really? They surely won't make her visit jail. So, what do I gain? From my point of view, I only stand to potentially lose 5k in addition to what I've lost already. Am I missing something here?

Yeah the fact that she knowingly endangers your children, it's called custody.  Go get some.  That's exactly the kind of shit I'd be looking for to fight for custody.  

Hook, just sorry that you are going through all of this.  Hang in there brother man.  

Fenderbender — Dec 13, 2012[quote author=Hookbender link=1355179857/0#8 date=1355263179]I have a court order stating that he, by name, isn't to be around my kids and it is the sole responsibility of my ex to see that happens. It also says that she must pay my attorney fees if she's found in contempt.

Here's the problem. Well, lets get this out of the way. I have absolute proof that the kids have been around the fucker, by her own admission in a text and eye witness. Now, the problem. There is no guarantee the judge will order her to pay my attorney fees even if it's in the court order. Second, what are they gonna do to her? What do I really have to gain be spending 5k bringing her to court for this after all the other money I've spent and lost in this deal? Just for the judge to say, come on now slut, you must obey the court order honey. If it's a gamble to even get reimbursed my attorney fees, do you think they will fine her or something? Really? They surely won't make her visit jail. So, what do I gain? From my point of view, I only stand to potentially lose 5k in addition to what I've lost already. Am I missing something here?

Yeah the fact that she knowingly endangers your children, it's called custody.  Go get some.  That's exactly the kind of shit I'd be looking for to fight for custody.  


I went down that road kinda. I searched for hours, read all kind of shit.... I tried to find something to do with sex addictions possibly going from adults to kids, etc, can't link the 2. The court won't care that he likes sex a lot, even enough to cheat on his wife and destroy 2 families. They just don't see that as a threat to the kids. You and I do, but the court doesn't.  Same with the ex. She fucked someone other than the father, get a divorce.... they just don't care because it didn't endanger the kids. Believe it or not, the court would say he's not worth a shit as a husband, but it doesn't effect his ability to parent at all. Sucks, but thats the facts my friend. I have one of the best , and expensive by the way, attorneys in Charlotte. I have internet. But I have no case.

When it comes to marriage, all you guys better damn well take into consideration that it is a personal decision to basically go into business with the partner. And you damn well better get a prenup and even have something agreed upon before hand on how to handle future assets. If you don't, you'll basically be starting over in the case of a divorce. This bitch even took my last chance at raising children in a normal environment. That is crushing man. That is the worst. Bar none.