The Watering Hole

Ok. No problem.

Think of it another way....

Let's just use me as a example.... my misfortune, if you will.

My wife cheats on me with a std infested piece of pond scum.

So. these are my options.

1) Get depressed and blame myself.
2) Blame her
3) Blame him
4) Blame them both


Pretty typical thoughts after such horrible misfortune.

In all these options above, I would be reliving the shit over and over, I guess, forever. For me to blame and judge these people would require me, in my mind at least, to think about the shit way more than would be healthy. To hate these people would also give them thought, on my part, enough to hate them. And I have to see her from time to time when I get my girls for visitation. (I hate that goddamn word, visitation.... with my own fucking children)

Anyway, for me at least, i chose to hate the action, not the people. I became against "cheating", because I learned from experience, what the consequences are for those type actions. I lived it. So, I hate the "action" of cheating. However, I learned to separate the action from the people involved so that I, basically, could move the fuck on. So, I leave the judgement side of the coin to others. They can judge these people until hell freezes over. As for me, I'm over it, and learned a valuable couple of lessons in the process.

That's about as good an example as I can think of, and it's my story. It's what I did to handle the situation.

Now, I'm not saying I'm correct and your wrong, in any of this conversation. I'm just explaining a thought process or tool, I've learned to use. I feel like if I go to the hate zone with these 2 shitbags, it won't ever end. And, it will only do me more harm. It will not help anything to hate these people.

So, I'm trying out using this weird tool in all aspects of life. It's kinda weird because I had this similar feeling when I stepped away from religion. It was a relief not to look at people and judge them all the damn time. Or myself, for that matter. So, I don't dislike or hate religious people, I hate religion..... the action. I don't hate trump for fucking around on his wife, I hate the action of fucking around. I feel like hate requires thought, and gives the hated way to much of of my valuable time. And, life is short. Why bother?

I know you guys are having too much fun here but, if I may interrupt for a moment, I think you're simply using the wrong word Hook.

I'm pretty sure you've heard of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), well a main tenant of this is that everything is an "EVENT" and how someone responds to an event is what matters.  It's very important to note that an event, by its very nature, is neither good nor bad, it just IS.  Only humans can give an event such meaning.  Therefore, how you perceive an event is what needs to be examined.  What may be considered a "bad" event by some (the farmer's only son breaks his leg) might be thought of as a "good" event by others (due to the broken leg the son doesn't get drafted for the war).

Anyway, it looks to me like you are equating the word "action" to the word "event" as described above.

Ok, carry on!  ;)

I look at the word action as more of a direct sight of mostly a singular act. I look at the word event, as kinda a group of actions.

In the case above, having sex outside a marriage with one person would be considered a action. Having sex with multiple partners outside a marriage would be an event. Either way, in the end, I would still dislike the action of fucking around. Doesn't matter if the person having sex outside the marriage was having it with 1 person or 300 people. The Masters is a golfing event. 1 golfer hitting one ball one time, is a action.  ;D

So, Mr std hits my wife 1 time, that is a action. He hits it 1 time a day for a week, that is a collection of actions, which are the same. Mr std and 6 of his friends hit my wife on the same day back to back, well damn, that's a event.  ;D

How can you read stuff like that? I didn't make it through half of it.

heh heh  That's mild for Crumb...

Please. Would someone explain to me why we have not 1, but 2, so far..... of the most horrible choices, possibly, in the history of country, ever? Fucking ever????

I'm simply amazed. If ever a time in our history, I think it's now, for a 3rd party or independent to run and actually have a damn good chance at winning. I hope it isn't Sanders. Ha!

Trump seems as though he's uneducated when in front of a camera. I don't think I've ever heard him complete a reasonable sentence properly. As thats coming from me.  ;D

And the Hilda Beast. She speaks well. Problem is, who knows if it's true or not. Can't trust what the bitch says.

And thats what we have to look forward to for 4 years, at least. Holy shit.  :(